July 04, 2013

Ropes Part 2- I Choose No

It's been a whole week since ropes. :) I remember it like it just happened! As I shared in Ropes Part 1- My Choice, I took on consciously choosing throughout the day.

As we approached an activity that is often found on ropes courses, a trust fall, I had the impression that this was my activity to say, "No."

I, like a lot of people, am the kind of person that doesn't like to say no. I don't want to cause waves or hurt feelings. Instead I'll say yes, and then feel burdened because it isn't right for me.

The trust fall is something I've done before. Outlook, however, has their own twist on the activity. Choosing no would mean that I wouldn't participate in the changed part. It was so extraordinarily hard to follow through on what my inner-self said to do.

Trust. It takes trust to follow my inner-self. It takes trust that people aren't going to get upset. It takes trust to believe that they will respect my choice and not try to change my mind. For me, it took more trust to say no then it would have to have taken that fall.

Later the facilitator asked me, "Did you cause waves when you said no?" At first, I answered no. Then I realized something. Yes, I did cause waves. They weren't the kind that rock the boat. They were the kind that empower others to step into their own agency and ability to say no.

This was my most emotional event of the day. I learned so much throughout the whole day. This is one of the most powerful lessons that I can take with me. Take time to listen to your intuition. If it's right to say no, then do it. Not only are you honoring your self, you are also empowering others!


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11 comments:

  1. Hugely powerful. I'd never thought of saying 'no' as empowering to others, but you're sooooo right.

    I can only imagine how emotionally charged this exercise was for you, Michele, and I applaud your courage.

    Blissings and so much admiration,
    the goddess known as Jacqui

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    1. Thank you! It is very touching to have my courage acknowledged. Thanks for touching my heart!

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  2. I too had not thought of 'No' as empowering others. What a great little 'a-ha' nugget. Thank you!!

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    1. My pleasure. It was a fun aha for me too!

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  3. I Love this: "Trust. It takes trust to follow my inner-self. It takes trust that people aren't going to get upset. It takes trust to believe that they will respect my choice and not try to change my mind. For me, it took more trust to say no then it would have to have taken that fall".

    Your post is very powerful Michele. Thank you for taking about trust as for me, it is still something I am working to better daily. but yes...I trust. Thank you

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    1. Thank you. It's still something I'm working on too. I've now just been armed with a positive experience to assist me in moving forward on it. We're all learning one step at a time and I appreciate knowing others are on similar paths.

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  4. Hi Michele,

    It's so important to listen to your intuition and pick out which voice that is inside--even if it seems like a "counterintuitive" one. Good for you for listening to your intuition and trusting yourself! :)

    ~Christina

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    1. Thank you. It can be a challenge but it get's easier the more it's practiced. Knowing which voice is which, that is. :)Following through is where I still find myself in struggle. I'm working on it. :)

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  5. Brilliant Michele and so empowering. I do understand now how empowering saying no can be. Like you I used to feel that you did that I was keyring others down and at the same time put a burden on me. When I say no to me I used to feel I was letting me down! We must be in sync I am writing A post on Trusting :)

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  6. Brilliant Michele and so empowering. I do understand now how empowering saying no can be. Like you I used to feel that you did that I was keyring others down and at the same time put a burden on me. When I say no to me I used to feel I was letting me down! We must be in sync I am writing A post on Trusting :)

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    1. I have noticed a lot of times our posts will have similar themes. :) It's kind of fun how that works!

      Thank you!

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