July 18, 2013

Ropes Part 3- War Wounds

What happens when we don't choose into what we are doing in our lives? What happens when we let others make decisions for us? My answer is War Wounds.

This is part 3 of a series highlighting the lessons I learned on a Ropes Course. You can read Ropes 1- My ChoiceRopes 2- I Choose No and any other posts I've written on the progress of my goal.

If you have read my other posts you would know that on my ropes day I committed to choosing in for each activity. We had a huge activity in which we, as a group, found a way over a wall. I did choose into the activity, but...

In this activity we had a leader. He would choose who to have go over in which order. I ended up being second. I did my power pose that indicated that I chose in. Here's the deal. I wasn't ready for my turn. I was going through the motions.

I really wasn't ready. I didn't check in with myself to see if I was ready. I didn't let anyone else know that I wasn't ready. I didn't want to let them down. I didn't take care of me first. I "took care of" the group by going when I was told versus when I was ready.

Then I got stuck. I was inches from being over and I was stuck. I had dear friends holding onto me so I wouldn't fall. It hurt. I couldn't go back down, because that could hurt me more, as well as hurt a whole group of people below. I didn't know how to go up.

The bruises in the picture are a result of my being stuck. Oh my goodness that hurt. I was in so much pain. Being stuck just kept making it worse.

So how did I get over the wall and out of increasing pain? I didn't. I'm typing from that position, believe me it's hard to type and hold on for dear life.

Obviously I'm kidding! I did get over that wall. When the pain was bad enough, I decided to commit into going over that wall. It was hard to celebrate the success because the pain of those bruises as they healed was so great.

How often in our lives are we stuck at the top? A small step or a little effort and over we go. How painful do we let it get before we finally commit? How much healing is required after we got over, instead of celebrating our success?

Pain can be a great motivator. Pain can really get us to commit. Wouldn't it be more fun and fulfilling if we moved into a way of being that had us committing and being motivated by desire? This is where I am headed! It's a fun place to be. Less pain, more celebrating, it's awesome!

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  1. Michele, I really appreciate this post - especially the line: "taking care of the group first". Wow, how many times have I done that in business. Thanks for the lesson.

    1. You are so welcome. That's why I write it! Otherwise my journal would suffice. :) I know that we all have lessons that can assist others in growing!

  2. Well said Michele, I'm looking forward to going back and reading the first 2 articles. :-)

    1. Thank you. I hope you find some insights in there as well. :)