December 29, 2014

The Power of Words

There is something so incredibly powerful in what we say things. Yet, as humans, we so often forget. Some people have never learned just how powerful their words are. The two most powerful words are I am. They create our beliefs and thereby create our realities.

I recently had a date with a man that used a phrase that began with I am. He seemed to be saying it with jest. I'm guessing as a way of dealing with the pain of being accused of being that way. What was really happening as he declared that I am?

Every time he said this phrase he gave power to the words. Your creating forces don't decipher between jest and sincerity. They create from the literal words we think or say. Every time he spoke the phrase he reaffirmed within himself and through his creative power that he is that way. The more he says it the truer it will be. What could have been a minor, easily reversed trait, could turn into a full-blown problem, because he is repeating the phrase.

Repetition gives power to our "I am" statements and is one of the key ways we program beliefs into our system. When someone finds that they have a negative belief they will begin to release it as they acknowledge the truth about what they believe. They then can use ways to speed the release process, or continue to allow it to release at a slower speed as it's replaced. The next step is to find ways to repetitively affirm the "new", positive belief. We train our brain what to believe, in this case consciously choosing to put a good or healthy thought in.

There was something else that happened when he did this repetitive I am statement. He drew my focus to seeing those traits in him. I was noticing his behavior, things that matched the belief he was trying to joke about. The reality is, I may not have thought much about those things had he not been saying anything. When we say something about us we engage others in looking for that about us.

When we are declaring things we don't fully believe to be true about us it often comes off as egotistical. The people observing us can sense the incongruity. People who seem egotistical are often trying to convince themselves, whereas confident people have an inner knowing. The examples of egotistical people often keep us from declaring the truth about us. We don't want to appear to be egotistical ourselves. We might be more willing to declare the truth if we understood this concept.

When I say "I am beautiful," others to see it, and more importantly because I know it I recognize how beautiful other people are. When we really believe something about us, good or bad, we naturally see that in others. This is often referred to as the mirror effect. This mirror is a great way to clue us into the thoughts and words we may be saying about ourselves.

Watch your words. There is a great power in them. Watch your thoughts as well. Keeping our mouths shut, when the thoughts still say it, doesn't change the creative power enough to make a difference. The thought can be just as powerful. When you notice you have a trait you don't like showing up in your words and thoughts, take time to evaluate what you really believe about yourself and make a change. You can do this. I believe in you.

With love and Light,

Michele Lewis
Identity Specialist

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December 22, 2014

Changing Focus, What Do I Want


My healing journey is one of constant morphing. An evolution as I am ready for new faster healing and as the people of the world are ready to change faster. Line upon line.

For most of my healing journey, I was looking for what was wrong. Looking for what can I clear or what can I let go of. A few months ago I started focusing to heal a particular relationship. An important relationship in my life that has been dysfunctional. My love for this person has been always been here yet at times, hard to find buried under the pain.

I wanted to clear things up. I knew that I could only change my own response, as well as the something in me that is attracting the experiences. So, I started my typical journey of fixing it by searching for what in me created the problem.

Just recently it dawned on me, I have been going about things backward. I have been focusing on what is wrong. It was time to consciously focus on what was good and what I wanted.

I kind of have done similar with other subjects. I wanted to attract into my experience my husband. I wrote out amazing things about him and our experiences. Then I just enjoy the wait for him to show up. As a belief, emotional or other blockage shows up I clear, but I don't go looking for them. What happens is I feel a trigger of sorts and since it's up in my face I clear it out.

I've used this in areas where the other person involved was someone I had never met. I have been afraid of altering the agency of others. The other day it hit me, I can't change them but I can change my experiences of them.

This won't change them, per say. If they are only a certain way with you and no one else, then I guess maybe it would change them. It creates what you will allow in your experience and how you respond. Any behavior they normally do that is not in alignment with what you will energetically allow from them cannot happen in your presence.

Some people call this idea a script. It never fully made sense to me. There was always a part of me that couldn't believe that they would really respond different. It was because while writing scripts before I was actually trying to change them. I was writing that they did this or that. This time it's all about me. My experience is... This allows them to stay them. If they cannot match my experience of them, then they would drop out of my experience until they have healed and changed to be in alignment with my energy. I like that too, the idea that they can return.

Using meditative writing, you too can try it. Pick an easy relationship that may only have a small issue to test it, or go ahead and pick a big one. If you feel resistance to the idea that it would work, then heal on the resistance first.

It's only been a short while for mine, but here is what I have already noticed different. Some of the same behavior that bugged me is still happening, but I don't react to it in the same way. Some things they did are even starting to go away. I don't feel the need to run away from being in the same room.

There is still an area that bugs me, and I realized I didn't write about that area. If I had written about it, then I would know that it is showing up to be released. I am focusing on what I want in a bigger way than I have ever done before and in so doing I am experiencing more than I have. When something wants to be healed it shows up for attention. Now my energy can say, “Oh you want things that way? Well, this is here in your way.” I heal and move on, again focusing on what I want.

I wanted this relationship healed for Christmas. I started nearly 3 months ago. I've been healing all along for this, but missing the real issues, as I was searching for what I thought was wrong. Just in time for Christmas things have switched incredibly. Now my energy has permission to let me know what really is in the way.

May you find healing in your life. Heal your relationships or other challenges in life, by focusing on what you want and just allowing. Allow the healing to show up for you, vs forcing it.

In love and light,


Michele

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December 15, 2014

What if... Just Breath

What if.... What if it were so simple to change things in your life? What if you could ask yourself any questions and get the answers, freeing up your experience? What if you have all the answers inside of you? What if you are only led to other people's information because you are not yet ready to find the answers for yourself?

How can you get in touch with these answers? It's surprisingly simple. One key ingredient is breath.

Taking deep, deep breaths. Filling up the lungs from the bottom all the way to the top and then expressing the air from the bottom and squeezing out the air from the top. Do this for 3 or 4 times and then continue to breath deeply but now let thoughts and feelings surface. Sometimes they can just easily be expelled on the breath. Sometimes you can suggest to yourself that it be set aside so that you can write about it. Keep doing this until you feel very relaxed and peaceful. Let go or set aside.

Now that you are relaxed and peaceful it is time to write. You have two main choices here. We don't want to allow the conscious mind to prevent this information from coming out of you so we write in a way that is fast.

Choice 1: For me I can type really well so I type with my eyes closed. Oh yeah my screen can look quite pretty, especially when I am off the keys. It looks like this. Jrtr od smf rc[s,;r pg jpe o ;ppld ejrm zo s, pgg yjr lrudz fprd oy eptl gpt upiz This funky typing is ok and doesn't need to be fixed if you are just expelling the garbage inside. It doesn't work so well when you are writing things out want to keep. I try not to backspace or correct as I'm going as this just stops the flow of the heart and let's that conscious side in.

Choice 2: The other method we have is hand writing. There is something therapeutic about writing coming through the hands in this method. I think it's a great way to purge out stuff. Please feel free to use this method, especially as you are beginning.

One of the keys to this kind of thing is speed. The faster you can get it out the more likely it is from the spirit and heart. Don't reread, try not to correct anything as you write. If it is important to keep writing in that flow. You can correct it after you are done.

Now here are some questions you can ask. Once you ask just allow the answers to come out. Don't sensor yourself. You may be surprised at what comes out.

How can I? You can continue to ask by adding a specific. How can I clear this issue with money?

What do I feel? This is a good general purge because you don't have to specify and you can let go of anything that is in your system.

What if... insert events or situations. Example: What if I was given a million dollars today?

These of course are just a few of the things you can ask. You can ask any questions. If you find you have a suggestion from a book or video to take a minute and write out answers to questions use their questions and this breathing technique.

Now here is some of the benefit. As many of you know people suggest writing all the time. Write out your money story is a frequent suggestion. I've tried this so many times over the years. I might get 5 minutes worth of stuff and it's all surface, all conscious thoughts I was already aware of. I knew I was not getting the real stuff and it frustrated. So when I learned how to write from such a relaxed place I decided to try my money story. If I got stuck I would breath and release the blockages and then keep writing; 45 minutes later I had it out. Well at least on the two questions I was asking myself.

What did I do after the purge of my money story? I wrote. I wrote a new money story. I allowed a positive flow of whatever came to flow out of me. I wrote and I wrote. I saved that story and deleted the old money story.

Here's a thing about writing this way. I don't always know what I wrote. I may have tidbits in my conscious mind. People rave about some of what I write and I am thinking, “I wonder what I said.” Now I sometimes have edited enough to know. I also have had things come out of me that were such a surprise that I remember. Don't worry if you can't remember.

If you are saving it, especially to share with others please be careful while editing. Edit in the relaxed state. It will allow that conscious part of you to edit what the spirit has to say, without the overcritical norms. If you don't edit while in this same relaxed state you will have a disconnect. This disconnect includes the connection anyone could have with what you have had to say.

I learned these writing basics, that I tweaked, from Tom Bird. (Not an affiliate link.) He has a free 'cd' for download that has a guide to getting in the relaxed state and a subliminal track. I listen to them while I write. If you have any desire to be an author check out his stuff. If you have a desire to just purge out your 'bad' stuff you may still want his subliminal track to listen while you write. It's not necessary as you have all the power within.

Good luck with your purging and writing. If you do this enough and get your own answers enough you will find that you resonate with fewer people in the self-help industry. You will find yourself drawn to people that write and produce from this state. If you are no longer in alignment with my words that's ok because I know this is how life works. We move in and out of alignment with our 'mentors'. Our spirit guiding us to who is best for us in this moment.

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With thanks, in love and light,

Michele Lewis
Identity Specialist

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December 08, 2014

When passion turns to should

The idea for this post started to form when I did some techniques to assist me with my feelings of overwhelm. I like to do a bubble diagram of all I “need” to do and even add a little note about how I feel about the to do.

One subject is homeschool. It has begun to feel like a should. I felt this same way about writing in my other blog on essential oils. Even some other things in my life, like church, scripture reading and journal writing all at one time or another has felt like a should.

All of these things are in some way inspired. I know that I am supposed to be homeschooling my children. It can be hard work but it is one of the most rewarding endeavors I have ever taken on. I felt prompted and inspired to write the essential oil blog. Yet I spent around a year with 'writers block'. I love reading scriptures, going to church and especially writing in my journal and yet I have had many times when I couldn't force myself to do them.

Why is that? It's because they all became shoulds.

With homeschool it was a matter of people challenging me because some of my children don't read as well as they “should'. We're working with learning disabilities in my home. I'm finding myself stressed because my eleven year old wants friends and I really haven't figured out how to provide that. We're talking about her going to some junior high classes next fall and then I feel pressure because what if she isn't where she needs to be?

I lost focus on the why and the end goal. My goal was never to have them ready to enter junior high, or even read by a certain age. My end goal is for my children to have the education that each child needs to suit their own needs and future callings in this world. The end goal is to have them ready for adulthood.

Every time I get caught up in the people pleasing aspect of homeschool I 'fail' as a homeschool mom. I say fail because I do in many ways quit. I get so stressed about doing things a certain way and we end not doing anything at all.

With my essential blog I felt uninspired. I felt stressed because I had been giving an oil away each week. I have the oils but I didn't have the money to send them to people. I got stressed because all of my readers were already essential oil users. A part of me was hoping to get some clients or team members from what I wrote. I lost the connection with why I started writing the posts in the first place. I wanted to learn more about the oils myself. I was writing more for me and hoping to share what I learned with anyone who would listen. My why didn't care about whether they joined my team. Writing became a should and I rebelled against the should and quit.

The same goes for everything in my life. If I lose track of the real reason for doing it I will find that I begin to resent doing and I end up quitting. It doesn't matter how much I love it or even how fulfilled I feel in doing it. As soon as I let go of my why and end goals I feel like quitting.

How does one remedy such a thing? Sometimes break isn't always a bad thing as long as it is just a break. Even better if you use the break to reevaluate what it is your are doing, remember the why and end goal.

For my essential oil writing I decided to let it just come out however it wanted. I didn't force myself to stick with writing about oils in abc order. I didn't even force myself to stick to writing about an oil each week. I decided to let it just come out as it wants to come out. I did away with the contest, at least for now. If I start again I will make sure it is in alignment with my why and end goal.

For everything that we have do it s a good practice to ask ourselves if we really want to do it. If yes, then do so. If the answer is no, then we can ask ourselves why not. Is it because it isn't aligned with us? Is it because we need a break to regroup? Is it because we're pleasing others and we don't want to do that any more? Often the answers we give ourselves are easy to resolve.

I don't believe we were meant to come to earth and live a life of shoulds.

Even with the gospel. We were given commandments but we aren't supposed to follow them because we should. He wants us to follow them because we love Him and desire to serve Him. We aren't meant to go to work because we should. We can make it through those should situations by focusing on a different reason. Focus on the positive side vs the negative side. No more I have to go to work to pay the bills. Now we can focus on It's time to go to work because I love my children and want to do my best to provide for them.

This change in attitude will do a few things. You will find that you are just all around happier. You will find you get more done because you aren't fighting yourself about doing. You will even find blessings come to you. A job you don't like could turn into one you do like or you will find a new job you enjoy. It's all because you have changed your internal vibration to be in alignment with a better thing.

Good luck with your should busting. It can be fun finding a way around a should. The end result is worth it.

With love and light,

Michele

Here is the link the essential oil blog I mentioned. You are welcome to go on over and see what I have to say. emotionaloilgal.blogspot.com

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December 01, 2014

The Ego Has Landed

I finished the draft for my book. I was surprised. I  didn't expect to have the surge of emotion that I had. Oh sure I expected to feel joy and such as I completed it but I didn't expect what I got.

What I got was a surge of many kinds of emotions all at the same time. There was a sense of loss. There was anxiety about the revision process and the publishing aspects. There was joy. There was relief. I felt a weight lift from my chest. I was left almost disturbed at finishing. I had no clue about so many of those emotions. I am sure it was a great healing for me but wow.

So what did that do for me? Oh it put me in my head. I started to feel the beliefs running through me and doubt. Was I good enough? Was my book going to be good enough? Would it be too short? Would it be... I started to feel a lot of fears surface. I did my best to let go of them. In fact I'm feeling pretty good about most of it now. I'm still a little uncertain on how I will publish. I have a few options and sometimes having choices for me is a little eh.

What was really weird for me was going from a state of joy, because I was writing from the spirit, to this place of fear. I was allowing my spirit to fully live and express herself through my writing. It left me on a spiritual high of sorts. It made it easier to stay in peace with my children and the events of life. Oh I would have my times when I fell out of peace but it was easier to get back with the healing that was happening. Then I started my revise.

For someone looking at things from a scientific point of view they might say that to write the way I do is to write from the right brain or even the subconscious. It's almost meditative, well I guess it actually is writing from within a meditative state. The left brain or conscious mind in many ways is disconnected from the process. The nature of revision tries to open the conscious and keep you in the left brain state.

Now there is nothing wrong with the left brain. I like my left brained side. I like making charts and even sometimes analyzing data. I quite enjoy the balance it brings to my life. I love that there are people who dominantly think with the left brain, for it brings balance to the world. It is a mistake to think that the spirit can't perform and be there for this left brained type activity. Your spirit is designed to participate in all aspects of life.

So then what happened? All of my doubts and fears about who I am or how good I am or if I am enough those all came up as I began my revising process. Instead of feeling peace and joy at the end of a writing session, I felt tense and aggravated. I started worrying about word counts. There aren't necessarily a lot of words in my 13 chapter book. In some ways each chapter is like a blog post. Now, I am sure it is perfect. It is what is meant to be and when I think of similar books many of them are short.

I had even began writing on another thing. This time it's a Christmas book. A children's story. I'm excited for a different aspect of my writing to be written this way. Even with this new book I still dreaded writing again. Silly ego. :D

What to do? Breath deep. Let it out. Write, journal, if necessary. Use whatever healing techniques you know and then be gentle with yourself as you move through the process of allowing your spirit to again live fully in your body.

This is what I did and today is a great day. I'm excited about writing. Even excited about revising!

Have a beautiful day.

Michele

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